Let's talk: Minors in Kink : Emilie Hope

First off, this is gonna be a post that will get a lot of flack because it is not the greatest subject to talk about in the BDSM community, I am a 29 year old, I have graduated high school I have learned a lot since I have become 18, yes, I was pregnant right out of high school, I am stating all that because in the last 11 years, I have grown up a lot and that makes it easier for me to explain my feelings on this subject. I discovered the BDSM community when I was only 19-20. It sparked my interest and I thought I would be a part of it. So, with that being said I started in the age range that I needed to. The BDSM community is about trust and consent and top rule is age; people that are still developing in mental state and physical state, they can not truly figure out what they wanted in a relationship. I know for a fact, me in that state was jumpy. I did date a lot, call me a slut if you wish but I was young and still trying to find myself. I was jumping sexualites and people that I was dating. At that age, I couldn't even figure out what I wanted to be as an adult and for a career so how could I figure out what I wanted in a relationship. I didn't even fall in love till I was 24/25. That is when I married my wife/caregiver, but you said you got pregnant at 18 weren't you in love? No! I was not, I wanted to feel loved and I thought that it was what I was experiencing and that was the total opposite. I was being controlled and not even in the good way like you are suppose to do in BDSM. 

I know that its the new fab right now to be part of DDLG/CGL, which is the branch that I am in. I do see a lot of minors on Instagram and Tumblr and it does bother me. I am perfectly fine with underagers researching but do not set foot in this place without being the age you are suppose to be and done a lot of research even I did that when I found out about it see I started with Kitten play and saw that that wasn't my cup of tea and realized that I was a neko, of course that is a cat person and I love that, so pretty much that I am a little that  dresses up all the time. I digress, littles space can be sexual or non sexual, me personally chose to be non sexual and so did my caregiver, but I do see that as a big thing in the underagers, "oh we are non sexual so we are okay!.." that is a no because the term DDLG ( daddy DOM little girl ) came from a branch of BDSM so it is a Dom/Sub role and honestly it was meant to humiliate the sub into being a child so degrading them and yes, it was about care and escape but first and foremost it is a kink, sexual or not it is still a kink it is a taboo. A kink is an act between two consensual adults end of story on that; someone younger then the age of 18 is not an adult and I know that you have these very smart, mature teens that are 16-17. I don't think that they truly understand sexual or not that is not seen in the courts eyes it is the fact that an adult is in a kink with a child, 16-17 whatever, I know that is the age of consent in some states but the fact is it's a kink, that does not matter in the courts eyes. these younger kids don't see that it is putting us true adult at risk.  I know one and I love his content and he is a great guy but my thoughts on that is if you were so mature you would respect the rules of the country/state what so ever, you would be smart and back down till you are 18.

If you are an adult you need to be aware that minors do try add you on social media even though that you state you're over 18. So my best advice is check every person that follows you and block whoever you see fit. Oh, I know that seems so mean because they maybe "learning" from you or me , no I do not believe that is acceptable because what you or I could teach them is the same thing that google could. So why you on a blog and YouTube if you aren't trying to teach. I am not trying to teach on these platforms, I am showing my experiences with the world to show that a person with all my issues and day to day things is able to live in this life style and be a role model for LITTLES (you know people of age) who are parents, with mental illnesses, with an odd family, with a judgmental family etc. I do it to express myself as I have always been since I discovered who was a person all those years ago. I have realized after being so sheltered my whole life that i can't do that, I am an open book and always tell the truth that is who I have made myself be because life is filled with lies and things as such so I want to be that one ray of hope that someone is true to themselves and open minded. I am not mean to the underagers honestly, i just block them and go on with my life, I have had someone address that an underager was following me and I just blocked the, didn't say anything else. My social medias, my rules simple at that. That is my take... This was a raw writing I hope that you enjoy!