Thoughts with Blackfiwe: Minors in Kink

I don't know why this topic is so controversial because it should be clear. Its not only dangerous for the adult legal age participants (whether the adult know your age or not) but also for the minor themselves. And I know people will still try to argue that a minor can have a caregiver as long as they caregiver is also a minor. but to me that's even more dangerous because a minor has no idea how to be a caregiver and it doesn't matter what their emotional maturity is. And they could easily manipulate the situation to gain total control over the relationship and disguise it as being "dominant". Even if we separate the caregiver lifestyle from Dom/little it doesn't matter because both are a power exchange relationship. Because the minor just wants to be a little they aren't thinking of the kind of dangers that participating in this community will present. There are unfortunately pedophiles in this community and it's a face that we try to keep quiet about and sweep it under the rug. But it's true and there are very real predators hidden in the community.

And I don't want to detract from any of the previous points that I have made but I do believe in promoting education in minors about kink. one of the reasons they're so desperate to participate in it is simply because they are being told no. So if we remove the stigma and talked about it a little more freely and the reasons why they cannot participate until they are of age we can reduce the amount of minors in this community. Because I don't want minors to have to go through untrustworthy sources to gain information about the community that just sets them up for danger as well. And I feel I should talk a little bit about when I first learned about this lifestyle. Yes you are correct I was a minor in high school when I learned about it on Tumblr. However it was clear to me even then that it was not something to be easily messed with. so I didn't come out and start participating in the community as a little until I was 23 years old. That's almost 10 years of quietly watching and learning before participating in any of it. I get it that some people don't have the patience and I possibly could have started participating as early as 18 however even then I understood the risk and that because of my personality people already often took advantage of me in my personal life.

So it's important to know who you are as a person as well before you participate in this community because I've seen many adults get hurt and taken advantage of and they were of legal age. But the damage I see is always so much worse when it happens to a minor getting mixed up in something they have no business being a part of. I hope you will consider the points that I have made today and hopefully it will either reinforce what you already know or possibly even change your mind on a few things.